Grief may be one of life’s biggest challenges, and everyone’s experience or coping mechanisms may be different.
Be present
Whilst you can’t take someone’s grief away, you can make them feel less alone. Stay in contact and ask them their preference. Let them talk about how they are feeling and about the person they have lost. Being present in silence is also helpful. They may just want you to be there with them at the moment, and not say anything.
Listen rather than talk
Allow them to lead the conversation and talk about their loss. Remember that people deal with grief in different ways, so if they choose to stay silent, know that having your quiet company can be just as reassuring.
Be open and specific
Be honest about the fact you want to help but are unsure how. Ask them what they need. If they don’t know what they need, that’s okay. Let them know that you’re there for them however they feel.
Safe space
When you do interact with them, create a safe environment where they feel comfortable to express their emotions. Respect their emotions and keep your conversations confidential, unless you have permission to share it.
Quality time
Suggest an activity to do during this isolation period. Your company is something that is truly precious to someone experiencing bereavement because it is reassuring to feel like someone is there for them.
Prayer or dua
Prayer can be powerful. Together you can make dua for the forgiveness of the person who has passed away.
Sadqa
Offer charity on behalf of the deceased. This will allow them to receive the blessings of these acts beyond the grave.
Help them find others to connect with
Take a look at our Coronavirus bereavement and grief support section. There are 24-hour helplines, forums, and other ways to connect with people going through grief. You may be a great source of support for them, but they may also need more support when you’re not there, or in a different way.
Supporting someone through a loss takes something out of you as well, and grief of your own can surface while you are holding someone else’s. The Muslim Youth Helpline is free and confidential, open every day from 4pm to 10pm on 0808 808 2008. You can also chat with us online or email us.